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Cerita Onya

Onya sekarang semangaat kalo les renang.
Ati gw adeemmm banget liat dia enjoy banget. Beda banget nget ngett sama last year.

Jadi taun lalu kita enroll dia buat preechool swimming class. Kenapa? Karena menurut Andi (dan gw), renang itu skill yg penting banget. 

Naah term 1 Onya masih enjoy, tapi dia gak mau sama sekali nyelem.
Boro2 masukin pala ke aer ya, dia mandi aja kalo matanya kena aer jerit2 "periiih, periihh" sambil tangannya sibuk nyari anduk (yg biasanya dia nyamber baju gw) buat ngelap mata. 

Onya itu bukan tipe anak yg "physical", dia bukan tipe anak yg heboh. Misalnya, liat prosotan... Kalo anak2 laen bakal nepsyong langsung manjat n nyerodot, kalo Onya ngga. 
Dia bakal observe. 
Dia bakal ngeliatin.
And pelan2 dia bakal mulai megang or taro kakinya satu2 seakan lagi ngitung risk factor-nya. 

Once dia ngerasa nyaman, dia bakal mulai nyoba. Itupun nyobanya bertahap. 
Pertama dia akan nyoba manjat tangganya dulu. And she will keep doing that sampe dia bener2 comfortable. 
Jadi udah manjat sampe ataspun, dia bakal turun lewat tangga lagi, dia ga nyerodot.

Then nanti baru mulai pelan2 dia bakal nyoba nyerodot. Awalnya dia bakal minta kita pegangin... Then gradually baru deh dia mau nyerodot sendiri. 

Dan sekalinya dia mulai nyerodot, ya dia akan terus berani n confident banget. 

Kitanya as parents kudu sabar n intinya: trust her. She knows what she's doing. 

Emang dari jaman di perut, Onya emang has her own way of making a statement sih hahaha. Kalo rata2 bayi nunjukin gendernya sekitar 4 bulan (bahkan ada yg dari 3 bulan), ini Onya udah ampir 8 bulan boooo baru mau ngangkang pas di USG!

Terus jaman dia (harusnya) mulai crawling. Buset... Anak temen gw yg lebi kecil dari Onya udah glinding sana sini ngerangkak. Bahkan ada 1 yg lahirnya sama2 tanggal 23 Juli kayak Onya, tu anak umur 6 bulan uda bediri ajeee! 
Hasrat buibuk la ya, jadi parno liat anaknlaen ko udah advance banget skill-nya. Si onya kok santai bener. 
Dia skip ngerangkak. Well, bukan skip sih.. Tapi urutannya dibalik. Jd dia lebih ngerayap bediri duluan.
Onya baru mulai mau ngerangkak itu 11 bulan. Jadi dia bediri dulu baru ngerangkak.

Lalu soal gigi. Onya ompong pong pooong sampe sekitar seminggu sebelum ulang taunnya yg pertama. 

Thank God banget gw punya dokter anak (kudos buat Dr. Eric Gultom di Medistra) yg bener2 nenangin (dan ngomelin gw berkali2) tiap gw ranya soal tumbuh kembang onya. 
Gw ingeett banget si Eric ngomel sambil setengah misuh2 bilang gini 
"Duuhh! Uda de buuu, kalo ketemu ibu2 laen tuh ga usa ngomongin anak. Anak ga usa dibandingin, tiap anak tu bedaa. Ibu2 kalo ngumpul pada ngomongin tas kek, sepatu kek, arisan kek... Ga usa ngomongin anak! Bikin pusing sendiri kan?!"

Hahahaha, itu dokter top abis dah. Ga pernah mau pake jas dokter, naeknya motor Harley, kuping tindikannya 3 pake anting. Tapi he has a very gentle heart and passion. 

Anyway, balik ke soal les renang. 
Jadi kita lesin Onya taun lalu tuh 4 term. Dimana kita keep on liat temen2 dia pada naek level and she was left behind stayin on the sama level, karena she refused to put her head under water. 
Sampe ahirnya kita putusin buat brenti. 
Gw ga mau anak gw stress. We want her to learn, but we also want her to enjoy the journey of learning. 

Jadi kita brentiin n kita ajak dia berenang casually almost every week. Tiap berendem di bath juga kita encourage dia pelan2. Sampe dia mulai mau sendiri. 
Dan! Tau2 pas balik liburan dari Indo, dia minta sendiri les lagi! 

Gw sampe tanya berkali2, are you sure? It's okay kalo Onya belum mau. Tapi dia kekeh dia mau. And ahirnya kita enrolled her back in deh, after 1 term off. 

First class in the same level... Dia langsung naek level!! Sekarang? Not only dia bisa nyelem, tapi dia bisa ngambang sendiri on her back!! And udah mulai bisa meluncur WITH her head under the water! Sekarang malah maunya nyelem mulu.

Terus dia bisa nyelem ambil object di dasar kolam *kolamnya ga dalem, dibawahnya ada tatakan khusus buat kids, jadi cuma dalemnya ga sampe seketek Onya deh*. 

And semangaattnya itu loh. She is sooooo happy, so confident. She's done it again. She caught me off guard. I should've trusted her more.
It's not always the goal... It's the journey.

Belajar percaya sama anak, dan jangan maksain kehendak. Emang kadang susah buat take a step back, tapi kadang stepping back is necessary. 

Im grateful waktu itu gw ga maksa Onya terus ngeles *tempted, yes! Gemes, yes! Keselnya? Ada!*  as Eric said, tiap anak itu beda. Every kid has his/her own pace. 

Comments

Viola Deo said…
Love your post. banget banget yg satu ini. Bener tiap anak tuh beda dan...trusting our children itu very very important.
Viola Deo said…
Love your post. Banget banget. Bener tiap anak tuh beda dan...trust your children is very very important:)

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