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More on The Husband

Yea, just feel like writing about him today. 

We are two VERY different people. 
Andi is more on the relax side. 
Dia the last person yg bakal stress about ANYTHING. While me, on the other hand... Gampang banget kepikiran and stress. 

Urusan packing aja gw bisa stress banget. Andi si santaaaii. 
That's why he did aaalll the packing and unpacking tiap abis holiday.
It works well for both of us. 

Walo keliatannya mungkin a bit un orthodox ya. Biasanya cewe yg ngurus packing, but hey! That what works for us :)

Ya daripada gw ngoceh saking stress, trus jadi gatel2, dan karena gatel2 gw jadi tambah uring2-an. Ya gak?
Dan faktanya si Andi enjoy sama urusan ngepak2... So ya why noot. Toh?

Gw selalu bilang sama nyokap, jadi Andi tuh enak. He never lose sleep over practically ANYTHING hahaha. Misalnyaaa waktu gw kesakitan setenga mateng pas mau lahiran Onya, dia mah ngorok ngorok aja di korsi hospital. Ga ada kuatir2-nya acan. It just him. It's as if he has his own little chamber in his brain yg keep all the worries away.

Kalo urusan nyetir... Well, biasanyaaa cowo kan yah yg nyetir kemana2. Kalo ini kebalik. I drive him around hahaha. Kenapa? Ya karena frankly, Im a better driver and andi juga suka ngantuk. 
So dibanding gw ngoceh2in his driving style, ya mending gw aja yg nyetir. 
Dia hepi, gw hepi. Kapish.

Jaman onya kecil, gw ga bisa duduk belakang n nyuapin Onya karena gw bakal mabok. Jadi? Ya ganti role.. Gw nyetir, andi nyuapin di belakang.

Aneh? Maybe. 
Tapi that what works for us!

And im not losing my respect to him. In fact, the more we embrace our roles, the more I respect him. Especially lately.

We are not a typical couple.
So what?
We're still going strong after being together for almost 18 years.

Did we fight a lot? 
A heck yeah! :)
Not lately though....
Each fight is necessary kalo menurut gw.
It build us up to be a better person.
Individually and as a couple. 
And that make us better parents too. 

Sempurna?
Nope. 
Jauuuuhh dari sempurna.
But! We're having a wonderful journey. 
I wouldn't change anything about us. 

I can literally say anything to Andi.
Conversation serius sampe ga jelas macam:

G: Di, pernah ga mikir kalo deep down elu tuh gay? Abis lu demen nonton Korea, gw aje kagak. 
A: lu gila! Kagak lah!
G: eh tapi yaaa, kalo kepaksa milih... Lu mendingan gw nyeleweng ama cowo apa ama cewe?
A: ya ama cewe dong. Tapi kagalah! Sarap lu! 

Ahahahah! How can I not love that man?
Tell me tell me! 

Apa lagi?
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A: gw gendut ya?
G: menurut lu?!!?
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A: yoga gih
G: ogah! 
A: enak tau yoga, ni kaya gini ni.. *mulai meliuk2 ga jelas
G: dih, emang lu berasa keren kl yoga?
A: iya dong, ni liat perut gw uda ada garisnya
G: gigi looo garis! Itu garis horisontal! Bekas lu duduk kelipet!
A: yg penting kan uda mulai begaris! Sirik aje lu *tetep meliuk2*
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Anyway, sejak gw kerja fulltime... Berasssaaa banget deh kalo Andi bener2 rise to the occasion.
He helps a lot with the house chores. He helps a lot with Onya. 
He even helps a looottt with my work. 
He created a formula for me to make it easier, he knows how I HATE numbers!

Last 2 weekends, he took Onya to her friends' birthday party. He let me stay home, katanya biar gw bisa "me-time", biar gw bisa release my stress. 

Sometimes, he hugs me without saying a single words. He let me cry my heart out. Even kalo I woke up at night gegara super rapid heartbeats, kalo dipeluk Andi tu perasaan detak jantung gw jadi melambat n make me feel sooo much better.
Walo abis itu bete gegara begitu nengok, die uda molooorrr aje gitu. Bini engap die moloorr. Kuatir kek, lah kl gw heart attack gimanee? *hiiy, amit amiit*

Tapi beberapa ari belakangan ini, jadi berasa kaya org jato cinta for the first time lagi hahaha. Apalagi with all that's been going on with my heart ya.... Ada kebersit di otak kl misalnya gw tidur trus tetiba ga bangun lagi gimannaa. Hahahaha.... Suddenly gw jadi lebih appreciative. Gw ga take things for granted lately. 

All in all, i have a good life. Indeed. 
Im blessed with a very, very, very good husband. I can say that we made a good couple dengan segala kekurangan dan kelebihan kita masing2.

God is good. Bener deh. 




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