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Closing My Ngoceh2 Chapter

Ok... hari ini mau tutup chapter ngoceh2 soal kerjaan disini.
Was a little embarrassed of myself reading my last post.
Well, kecuali kalo ada kejadian baru yg emang beneran heboh..
Berasa udah cukup ngoceh2, whining, dan ngegerutu soal kerjaan ini.

Toh ngoceh2 kemaren juga most probably didukung oleh keadaan tubuh yg emang udah mau dapet.
Emang gw kan kalo udah mau dapet itu suka jadi galak luar biasa.
Short fuse banget.

Jadi, maafkan saya blog.
Karena saya sudah banyak memaki.

Sekarang update yg hepi2 aja....
Bulan maret ini Wellington Regional Council itu lagi promosiin program yg namanya Movin'March.
Jadi the council working really closely with schools all across Wellington buat encourage anak2 jalan kaki/naek sepeda/skuteran ke sekolah.
Every time they come to school ga pake mobil, mereka bakal dapet 1 stamp.
Kalo udah 10 stamps, school bakal masukin itu kartu buat diundi sama council.
Nanti yg menang dapet sepeda n helem baru.

Kids are ECSTATIC!!
Kalo yg rumahnya rada jauh, banyak yg minta diturunini jauhan dari skul jadi mereka tetep bisa dapet stamps-nya.

Onya gimana?
Tu anak cuma pengen dapet stempel!
Tadi cerita kalo dia gak mau sepedanya. Dia cuma mau stempel ajaaa.
Kenapa?
Karena dia belon bisa naek sepeda roda dua, dan hadiahnya kan roda dua.
Helem juga dia bilang "I love my helmet, mom... i dont need a new one"
Terus dia bilang "I hope my other friend got the prize, not me. I just love to walk, but I really dont need the prize".
Good babe. Kamu ga materialistis hahahaha.

And di jaman digital begini,
gw besukuuurrr sangat kalo Onya itu ga punya ketergantungan sama gadget.
We dont even watch TV on weekdays.
Well, nyala si kalo jumat sore.... kita punya tradisi tiap Jumat itu kita sebut Movie Night in our family.
We get to watch TV as a family sambil makan popcorn.
She's allowed to play with her iPad kalo Sabtu/Minggu... tapi ga seharian tentunya.

She's not allowed buat maenin gadget kalo lagi makan.
Jujur.... as parents of a young kid, kalo makan di restoran ya kadang ribet.
Kita kudu ngelenong entertain supaya anaknya ga bosen n mulai ngambek (been there!).
Tapi so far kita selalu somehow manage to keep her away from gadget.
I feel accomplished to be honest! 

Sekarang sih udah mending ya... Onya udah mulai gede.
Duuh jaman2 dia umuran 3-4 taun itu ya ampun... ngelenongnya parah looh kita kudu menghibur dia supaya anteng.
Apalagi kalo di restoran yg makanannya lama keluarnya.
Masa ampuunnn...
Pas makanan keluar pun kita kudu makan cepet2 gantian.

Gw sama Andi berusaha mati2an supaya ga give in.
Karena ya ampuun... if only kita give in n kasih dia maen HP,
idup kita bakal tenaaang banget deh ahhahahah.
Makan di restoran bisa santai, ga usah buru2, pokonya damaaiii.

But we chose not to.
We chose the "hard" way.
Kita ajak ngobrol, kita ajak maen, kita bawain krayon n kertas, boneka kecil2, etc.
hahaha... sekarang masa2 ribet itu udah mulai paid off.
Onya bisa duduk anteng, makan sendiri, well mannered dan kita makan udah lebih slower paced.

Namanya anak kecil ya... of course lah ada masa2nya bikin naek darah.
ofcourse kadang dia ga sabaran....
Makanya gw paling ga suka kalo janjian makan sama orang yg ngaret.
Emangnya gampaaang keep a child waiting lama2. Apalagi kalo tu anak uda laper.

Tapi overall.... Im happy that I can "shield" her from gadgets.
Susah sih emang. We, as parents, gak boleh "gak mau ribet".
Karenaaaa dealing with kids itu ya... emang banyak ribetnya.
Tapi all paid off kok. Bener deh.

Agak "serem" waktu ke jakarta.
Di restoran ampir semua anak dijejelin gadget.
Sedih juga liatnya....
Baru duduk (padahal ada nanny) langsung kuarin HP/iPad.
Terus nanny-nya suapin.
Mami papinya ngobrol ngalor ngidul....

Itu pemandangan yg jarang gw liat di wellington.
Yg sering kita liat disini itu... anak tantrum gegulingan jejeritan di restoran/mall hahaha.
Atau yg anaknya menggeliat2 di ubin, either lagi maen or... tantrum!
But but but... isn't that what being parents are all about though??
You invest your time and energy in your kid.

Don't be embarrassed if your kid throws tantrums.
Parents get it!
Teach the kid a lesson.
Teach yourself a lesson.

Gw pernah sekali ngalamin Onya public tantrum.
Dia tereak n nangis sekenceng2nya gegara gw ga mau beliin dia maenan.
Panik ga? TENTU!
Berasa pengen toyor ga? BANGEET!!
Give in ga supaya dia diem? NOPE!

I calmly walked away. (walo dalem ati udah kedat kedot)
Tebar2 senyum sama onlookers.
And eventually pas onya lari ngikutin gw, I scooped her up and took her to the car.
(yang tentunya dia meronta2 jejeritan n nyakar gw dong!)
She was three.

Tapi what happened after that?
That was the first AND last time it happened.
Im pretty sure kalo gw give in, itu ga akan jadi yg terahir.
She learned her lesson.
She knew taktik macam itu ga bakal sukses n malah jadi bumerang buat dia.

Sekarang if I said no, sejelek2nya dia bakal manyun sebentar.
Terus dia bakal bilang "then can I put it on my wish-list?"
I would say "yes you can, but I may not say yes".

Terahir she really wants something itu about a month ago.
Dia pengen banget kartu Pokemon.
Dan gw gak pernah kasi dia beli2 Pokemon, karena frankly, menurut gw pokemon itu ga ngedidik.
So she started to "work" for it.
She earns money dari bantuin Andi beres2,
or ajak Pippy jalan
or feed the fishes tanpa disuru.
or kalo dia practice piano tanpa cangcingcong.
She earns between 50cents to 2$ depending on our generosity and how big is the task.

Intinya, dia nabung 2 mingguan sampe dia bisa beli tu kartu.
(yg langsung ketinggalan di sekolah n ilang beberapa biji!)
ahahahaha...

Im FAR from perfect.
Tapi God knows Im trying my best.
Gw ini judes.
Gw rasanya selalu deh kebagian jadi "bad cop"-nya mulu.
It comes naturally juga macamnya :)

Ya anyway,
So NOOOTTT looking forward to besok deh.
Ada farewell di kantor, bakal disuru speech gitu2.
I hate it.
As I said, I dont like being in a spot light apapun itu alesannya.

Pengen suru cancel aja, tapi gimana ya?
halah... malesin deh.
Kalo bisa gali lobang buat masukin pala macam burung onta I would.

I CANNOT wait buat lewat hari Kamis.
I CANNOT wait but hari minggu.
Abo is coming.
We're gonna have girls roadtrip.
We'll be flying to Christchurch, then drove all the way to Queenstown for 4 days.

Just me and her.
I think we both need a break.
She needs a break from the kids and routines.
I need a break from being at work.
So yeah, I think we're gonna have a blast.
Gonna have an adventure.
Gonna be fun.
Gonna be full of laughter.
Gonna be fighting (maybe?) too hahaha.

All in all, Im sooo looking forward to our trip this coming Monday.

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